Are You Embracing Your Imperfections?

Do you remember the last time you shared your awkward moments with loved ones? Can you recall the time when you used to post all photographs without any filter? We always want people to know our perfect sides. Things should be just right and we can hardly settle for anything less than perfection.

We share moments we are proud of. Post images that make us look perfect. Use the perfect caption that expresses the image so perfectly. But is the real world flawless too? Are imperfections, gaffe and incompleteness a sin? The answer is NO. Neither the world is ideal with all the entropies within it, nor are we. Still, we often scrutinize ourselves so much that we forget the real truth. That the actual joy resides in being imperfect.

Accepting our imperfections does not necessarily mean that we stop improving. Besides, we can use it as a personal development tool. It can be an excellent motivator, as long as we don’t start taking it too seriously.

Embracing all the imperfections in your life not only helps you make peace with it. It helps you gain your inner peace. A place where you are grateful for all that you have and clear the passage of improvement in areas of your imperfect life.

Here are a few tips you can start embracing your imperfect life, perfectly!!!

1. Embrace the imperfections in people around

You can check yourself by evaluating your level of gratitude towards your surroundings. Are you grateful for the people around you? We often become so meticulous that we start pointing out small things to complain in the people we love so much.

Those imperfections, incompleteness is what makes them unique. We compare, we expect and when they fail, we complain. But did we miss something? Yes, the fact that they tried. They tried to make us happy with all their incapability.

For once, consider having perfect partners, perfect colleagues and perfect neighbours. Life would become so boring. The moments with people we recall were always those of imperfections. That’s the joy of wonderful relationships with people around.

These imperfections are what makes us unique. Cherish the uniqueness in each person living on this planet.

2. Embrace Your Imperfection

Ever thought why we get depressed over our results and get frustrated? The expectations we have from ourselves are perfect in their world. We often believe that living perfectly, looking perfect and acting perfectly helps us avoid being judged or blamed. But what is happening in reality?

We are just building a thick shield between us and the people around. Only when you break that shield, you will find people with compassion, love, care and guidance. The people who cherish your incompleteness and celebrate your imperfections as the only perfect thing that could happen. Don’t miss these wonderful people for a bunch of maniacs. Embrace yourself of who you are, because your flaws and incompleteness are what makes You special.

3. Enjoy the Process more than the Results

Personal Development is a journey that means you ought to spend more time travelling and less time at your destination. Bumps and obstacles in the journey are inevitable and they are all part of the process.

I had this expectation of going into an IIT for my Bachelors’ Degree when I was 16. This world of the dream was perfect with all the applause, appreciation, assurance and validity from the rest of the world. But in the real world, I couldn’t complete this perfect dream I had. I missed my chance of becoming an IITian. But along with this, I missed something else too, more important. I never enjoyed the experience of learning in those years of preparation. The knowledge I never had before and the competence level I built in me. Instead of rejoicing my journey, I disheartened myself with my failure.

It’s always the path functions that are more important. The work you did on yourself, the heat and pain from surroundings is all that matter. Since the energy is conserved, your hard work and energy of preparation can’t just disappear. Depending on how much you kept your path free from entropies, you will always get the best results.

4. Start living in the present

With 60,000 thoughts wandering off through our minds, we tend to think about how perfect the situation could have been and how perfect it would be. Although reflecting on mistakes helps us in personal development. But we often forget we are missing on our present moments which will never return.

After reading all the above, the question that may be coming to your mind is “How shall we start embracing our imperfections?”

The first baby step is creating awareness. When you are aware of your thoughts, your words and your actions, you start working upon yourself. Through meditation and contemplative practices, you can start having more attention to the moments when you criticize yourself or others for not matching up to a certain ideal.

Start looking at failures as an opportunity to re-invent yourself. Find causes of your failure, it may help you amend your goals or change your approach.

While it’s fun to dream of a perfect life, you must recognise that it is not the perfect goal either. It will only make you unhappy, disheartened and frustrated. Accepting one’s flaws without self-criticism is a necessary step in the journey of personal development.

Love yourself for who You are. Because your mistakes, ability to learn from them and your imperfections make you Perfect!!